Many years ago when i first started learning the essence of the Dharma Teachings, the profound teachings of Karma relates to our Three Doors: Body, Speech & Mind. It was said that the right speech is the most difficult to observe precept in our daily life (for lay people, i think).
Personally, i like the summary chart of the Noble Eightfold Path presented at this website (view 23 April 2011):
http://www.thebigview.com/buddhism/eightfoldpath.html
In daily life, from family, workplace to religious organizations (not to mention the political scene squabbles), it is easily testify the cause of most human misunderstandings, unhappiness, even quarrels and fights because of human words/speech, including human communication problem/barriers (cultural meaning of language, percepetions etc) !
With the blessings of the Guru &The Three Jewels (Buddha, Dharma & Sangha), my prayer wish while visiting some beautiful, ancient monasteries in the holy lands: May the Sangha spirit be the light of all Buddhist organizations!
In retrospection, when Khenpo Kunga Tashi Rinpoche was invited to use my late parents'old house in March 2009, during the first few months, many times my little wisdom was distracted, disheartened, even stressed by human words, especially from the fence sitters - while spending time, energy and finance in organizating some initial activities for people to learn Buddhist practices. Khenpo compassionately guided me with this simple phrase: 管自己没有烦恼,管别人可带来烦恼 [self-management no problem, other-people management may give problem]... this practical reminder has thus constantly guided me in many ways in lay life.
Ironically, one time (or more?), i was so stressed that even almost like 'told off someone who talked like non-stop, commenting on those who contributed much, but no action of helping! Under such circumstances, instead i was inviting remarks such as: you did not practise well (你没有修到!). It made me realized that our little remarks may be the result of blowned negative energy of others. Then I confessed to Khenpo for my lost of temper, he compassionately compared someone practising in a cave alone and contributes to dharma activities to benefits others as more challenging in practise. At that time, i felt that compassion is very difficult to practise ( 慈悲心很难修)!
I thanked all my teachers, the presence of Rinpoches' and their compassionate guidance- through their actions of showing tolerance, patience and forgiveness to people who do not treated them in the right manners in many situations. I reminded myself it was my own motivation that sailing me through, when i asked myself: why am i doing all these? If it is for my own "accummulations of good karma or clearing my past karma", hi and bye style is simpler, just joined any dharma activities organized ready, go there, chants together, do little donation or participated in activities, folded palms to the Reverand Ones, or get blessings, give little 'red packet' (token), said thank you and go home - happy and no problem.
Last night before going to the dream land, i read this beautiful dharma teaching: 依法不依人[let dharma be your guide, not personal behavior]
- it is a quintessence teaching for constant reminder for all lay practitioners in learning the Dharma, sometimes we may forget being caught in the samsaric world of the eight winds (八风).
Below is a beutiful phrase from 'WORD OF WISDOM' by
Kyabje Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche, given to us (Maitrikara group at Norman, USA in 1995) by Jigme Khyentse Rinpoche:
Do not forget the Lama,
Pray to him at all times.
Do not be carried away by thoughts,
Watch the nature of mind.
Do not forget death,
Persist in Dharma.
Do not forget sentient beings,
With compassion dedicate your merit to them.
Thus have i read...